Sunday, June 28, 2020

"If your voice didn't hold power, they wouldn't try to silence you."

George Floyd.... I'm grateful you are changing the world.  My heart hurts for you, and your family and every black, every one that has ever unjustly suffered at the hands of our racist system, at the hands of our racist police force, at the hands of our racist nation...at the hands of HATE.

First, I have to say that the foundation of this country I call home is built upon raping, pillaging, stealing, murder, slavery, oppression and corrupt politics.  It does not have a solid voting system.  It works the way it was set up to work.  It is NOT broken....it is about to be.

SO many hundreds of years of lies are intertwined, making the foundation of this country unstable with holes and cracks all up in it...making it impossible to build a solid, loving, honest and equal society.

So now, we have a hurting nation, a hurting world, that is about to gut the system and dissolve the feeble foundation of this country....

WE are about to redefine and rebuild the foundation of Human Kind.  The reform, the bandaid, isn't going to suffice this time.

George Floyd's brutal murder just woke up the soul of this Earth and lit her on fire.... the mama bear woke up from hibernation, hungry and fed up. 

As I attend these protests, starting with the ones that ensued directly after George Floyd's death.... I have learned our 1st Amendment isn't real.  I have learned the militarized police force are the aggressors.  If we really think about it, we are showing up to these protests BECAUSE of the injustice and abuse of power of the system and police force. 

We don't have rights.  If we did, we wouldn't be protesting the murders of our black communities, because there wouldn't be any.

I have learned I can trust the incredible communities of protesters that come from all walks of life.  I have been reminded the power IS in the people.  I have learned to keep learning... I'm staying open to the pain of others, to the journey and struggles of our people.

The communities at these protests are truly amazing.  Complete strangers are feeding one another, nourishing one another, supporting each other, standing for others even in times of danger.....black, white, asian, etc....it doesn't matter.  We are all a community with love and passion that has turned into fire.

We are all there because we are outraged by the constant injustice, by the abuse of power, by the violence and murders..... outraged because these families are broken, loved ones taken from them..... our love for justice, our love for the victims, our love for their families.... our love for our community is showing up in force, in anger, in rage.... it's a deep, deep kind of love.  It's a soul kind of love.

I'm white.  I was born white.  I'm not sorry, it's just the skin I was given this lifetime.

My heart hurts for every injustice everywhere.

At these protests, I have heard some black speakers talk about the white people in a way that continues the segregation.

I'm here.  My voice is loud, my heart feels the oppression, my soul burns for truth and justice in our communities of all colors.  Empaths also come in all colors.

I walk out the door and I'm white.  I get that.  Just like you, I can't change my color of skin.  I don't have the same concerns when I walk out the door.  I'm not in immediate danger of being judged or murdered at any given moment.

I can however, speak loud and from my heart, stand on the front line, empathize, sympathize, assist, support and honor the struggles and challenges of others.  Don't suppress your people.  Don't suppress your white, human family during these times of change where ALL of our voices need to be heard.  If we are going to stand, we need to stand together.  We are there to abolish segregation....it starts today, with US.  We are better together.  Let my fire burn bright alongside yours....our flames together will be seen and the heat cannot go ignored.....

#ThisIsAnUprising

~Ain't no power like the power of people, and the power of people won't stop.














Monday, October 31, 2016

The Sudden Lovely Ranch


The Sudden Lovely Ranch

 

              The Sudden Lovely Ranch (SLR) has been brought to life in the oddest and most stunning ways.  From poverty and homelessness, to love and today’s success, it has been anything but a simple ride.  This healing and beautiful space has taken a lot of work and an ability to embrace the unexpected.  When visitors arrive, there’s only joy, amazement and a sense of home, thanks to the many animals, the beautiful views, and the good food and company that occupies this land.  Let’s talk about how it began…

Jenae was facing a lot of difficulty in the spring of 2013.  As a single mom of six children, she faced challenges that most cannot comprehend.  Committed to an organic, healthy, and wholesome lifestyle, she often faced public criticism for choosing quality food and education for the kids, although this often made it hard to pay bills or keep a stable roof over their heads.  She stuck to it, and sacrificed unimaginably and kept a hopeful and positive outlook entirely.  One day, fate brought her to a safe and beautiful home, occupied by a man she’d known in passing for years.  This place would later become known as The Sudden Lovely Ranch and would change their lives forever.

The man was Steven “Woody,"  a local handyman and cattle rancher.  He had deep roots in the community and had actually vaguely met Jenae six or so years ago, through the local co-op.  He had a large room, an open kitchen and a kind heart, and when Jenae was facing the most challenging moment yet, he offered this place for her to stay and the chance to settle back into a community that she once loved and knew.  She accepted, squeezed three beds into a cozy room, and began coexisting with this generous guy she’d hardly known before.

              Three months went by in the blink of an eye, and Woody and Jenae shared many evenings chatting.  Woody also took a particular interest in teaching the kids outdoor skills like hunting, fishing, wood chopping, fence building, and cattle herding.  As a mother, Jenae noticed and was moved by how Woody served as a natural role model, living the way she’d always taught her boys to be, in terms of ‘gentlemanly’ conduct and respectful living.  His vision for life and for his home were not unlike hers, and he too began to feel deeply about this visionary, powerful woman that had suddenly filled a once quiet space with laughter, love, and the footsteps of many beloved children.

              One August night, at the wedding of an old friend, Jenae and Woody looked at each other and both suddenly realized they were actually quite in love.  It was fateful.  They were both a little nervous about what this new relationship might mean for the future, and trust took a long time to build, as the family was still in what most would call ‘survival mode’, because things had been so hard.  Fortunately, time only showed that both partners’ commitments were deepening, and the following year the ranch began to blossom.

              It started with chickens, as well as a connection to a local Alpaca rancher.  Bette, a rancher in her 70s, was needing help with her large ranch and wanting to help, Jenae took the youngest boys of the family, Malik and Keenan, to help scoop poop and care for Bette’s Alpacas.  Bette was generous and saw that this family truly loved the animals.  She provided fencing and gifted seven Alpacas to Jenae for keeping.  This started a process of unexpected healing for the family and growth for the ranch.

Over the following couple of years, ducks were ordered in the mail, to bring in duck eggs and meat, and of course, geese followed.  The garden was restored each summer to grow more and more bountifully.  There was never a dull moment, as both Jenae and Woody were managing a large family, jobs, and building the ranch in spare moments, including building a greenhouse, building chicken coops, fencing in multiple acres of land, and more.  The work was endless but so was the abundance, and today, the ranch is thriving, with yak, cows, and even a lizard.  The name stems from Jenae and Woody’s affection for a favorite band named “The Sudden Lovelies”… And so to those sweet tunes, the Sudden Lovely Ranch has danced its way into the hearts of many. 

Neighbors and community members gather greens, veggies, eggs, and meat from this ranch and others simply come up for a good meal and healing space.  The community has truly brought this place together, along with the good intent and love of an unexpected pair, Jenae and Woody.  The kids, Shaylee, 24, Tiana, 17, Jayden, 15, Isaiah, 13, Malik, 10, and Keenan, 7, are all doing incredibly well.  Shaylee works with survivors of Traumatic Brain Injuries in Denver, CO, and visits whenever she has time.  The other five are still home, succeeding in school and ranching at home.  They are able to eat and cook shared, wholesome meals, much of it sourced from the farm or from the cattle raised by Woody, just like Jenae had always dreamed. 

Here at the ranch, life has a whole different set of challenges to the family that was once struggling to put gas in the car and pay rent.  It's a balancing act that is worth every ounce of effort.  It may take a village to keep the sacred, mountain ranch open and flowing.  All who come visit, feel the therapeutic lasting effects of bliss, nature, fresh air and love. 

As someone once said, “Not all who wander are lost…” and the Sudden Lovely Ranch seems to have wandered right into existence, changing the lives and spirits of everyone involved.

 

 Written by my eldest....she's so talented.  The truth caused tears in her eyes and mine as we read our story.  Wow.  So powerful.  xo

 

             

 

Saturday, October 22, 2016

Creating a Sacred Ranch in 3 years!

There is proof that time continues and new chapters are always around the corner!  We are still in our safe, loving mountain space....three years later.

Now!  We have created this amazing farm with alpacas, chickens, ducks, geese, yak, and cattle, a garden and greenhouse.  Each group of animals, with the exception of the birds, found us!

My daughter had a friend, that knew a neighbor of ours, who needed help.  Our neighbor had been raising alpacas for years and ended up with 28 of them!  She needed help scooping poop, watering and just helping out. 

We had been homeschooling the two youngest boys at the time and decided it would be a great experience for all of us to go help on our neighbors ranch.  I had wanted alpacas years ago, but they were going for $20K to $40K each!  I gave up on that idea.  As we worked our neighbors ranch, the boys and I fell in love. 

Our neighbor decided she wanted to downsize, and she asked if we wanted to take some of her alpacas.  We did have a barn, but it was being used as storage.  Woody and I decided to clean out the barn and bring 7 alpacas home.  We had a vision to use their fiber and we also knew these animals were just so therapeutic for anyone who would interact with them.  The neighbor ended up giving us fencing, gates and alpacas.  We've been loving them for about 2 1/2 years now!

The cows?  Well, Woody has been working with an elderly neighbor on the land next to ours helping him raise beef cows for the last 4-5 years now.  Last year, Woody took over the majority of the labor on that ranch.  We ended up keeping two cows through the winter last year....one was the lead steer (our working cow) and the other cow was kept to be a friend and also needed a bit more nourishment.  This winter we have our lead steer and our two mama cows will be coming home soon...hopefully pregnant!  One of the mama cows was a run away cow from down the road.  She showed up at our meadow, fell in love with our lead steer and decided to stay.  Her owner, another elderly neighbor, gifted her to us.  The other mama cow was one of our cows that Woody gets "paid" with.  For Woody's labor on the ranch next door, he is gifted 5 cows a year.

Yak!  Oh, yes, the yak!  How I love them all!  I had been "yakking" Woody's ears off about yak for about 1 1/2-2 years before the yak showed up!  Did you know you can feed three yak the same as one beef cow?  You can use the yaks fiber (wool), too!  The outside of the fiber is waterproof and the inside is like cashmere.  Imaging mixing the alpaca fiber with the yak fiber...  You can pack a yak up to 300 lbs., you can ride them, milk them, eat their meat (if you're a meat eater) and their immune system is fabulous!  They don't have a tendency to get hoof rot or pink eye like cows do.  Yak are lighter on the land, non aggressive by nature and just magestic animals.  They can hold their own with predators and don't need much shelter, if any.

Woody was hesitant about trying to get yak.  He didn't know much about them, with the exception of what I kept repeating in his ear year after year!  We also knew we couldn't afford them.

Some friends of ours knew some locals who were being kicked off their land.  These locals had yak on their land and weren't sure what they were going to do.  They had about a month or so to move the small herd.  They found out from our mutual friends that Jenae loves yak and that we had land.

We all came together and decided that we would take in their yak until further notice.

The very first night the yak were in our meadow, one of them birthed.  The owners had said they had no idea if any of the mamas were pregnant.          

Woody and I had watched as the bull sniffed the mama from behind (it wasn't mating season) and then the mama walked off on her own into our aspen forest.  I thought it was weird the mama would walk off by herself and told Woody that she was looking for a place to birth.  We were both so side tracked by it all, we kind of blew it off and walked away.

The next morning, we were standing with a neighbor in our driveway looking at this really strange cloud that was hovering over our meadow.  We talked about it for a few moments.  Shortly thereafter, the baby yak came out of the meadow!!  Yes, his name is Cloud.  The owners of the yak gifted us the baby.  We have now been hand raising him so we can create a small herd to pack out with, ride, use their fiber, have them work the ranch and possibly milk them in the future.  We still house and love the other 6 adult yak.  They are all so perfect. 

Dreams, manifestation, blessings abound!  Life is incredible.   





Monday, March 10, 2014

In a Sacred Space...Now Healing Begins!

We've been "surviving" for SO long....actually, my whole life has been just that.  The kids have also been on that same path, until now.

Now we are in such a sacred, stable, loving, supportive environment... all of our emotions are free to surface.  We now have space for that....space, time, and a place for healing.   Everyone of us are experiencing intense emotions that are coming up to allow healing of old patterns, behaviors, beliefs, and ways of "survival."  Everything from anger, jealousy, sadness, mild illness, and just plain confusion has shown up. 

I've been dealing with my own "stuff" and holding space for each one of the kiddos to go through theirs.  Just trying to hold sacred space for each one of them, their emotions and healing processes.

I have had to trust and recieve....sounds easy, but whoa.  Good news is, I am able to recognize that these "irrational" emotions that are surfacing for me are from my past patterns and behaviors that were created in a time of need and survival.  There is no need for them in the space I am currently in. 

I guess some of the emotions that I am currently experiencing are a result of the fear I am experiencing.  Being scared that I will loose all that we have now.  Just waiting for that moment when we will be "surviving" once again....let down again....given up all over again.

I am also learning so much and trying to be easy on myself.  I get mad at myself for feeling anything but bliss.  Life is so incredible right now.  I am sifting through all of these feelings, emotions and insecurities.  I'm embracing each one, exploring them and looking for ways to heal and release.

I have never been so in love, so loved and adored, so happy and truly safe.  What a difference and so healthy.  The kids are also in such a new, safe, secure, loving environment.  We are all truly grateful and a bit scared.

Life is still amazing....more amazing than ever. 

Breathing and allowing it to be.  Healing and progressing...our lives have changed for the better.  Adjusting to the newness of it all. 

I'm super grateful my man is such an anchor and support.  He keeps me grounded and holds me in light.

Truly blessed.







Sunday, December 15, 2013

A Whole New World

This thing called life is just incredible.  What an amazing journey that continues on. 

I guess moving out of the area wasn't in the cards.  Due to my ex and some higher powers at work, we were forced to stay put.

Thank goodness.  What a blessing it turned out to be.  ;)

We are still in the same place we moved into in June of this year after moving out of the foreclosed house.

I am now in a serious, amazing, loving, mature, spontaneous, exciting, mutual, beautiful relationship with the man that we moved in with.  We've known eachother for 7 years.  Neither of us ever knew what we could be together.  We have always been friends, kind and genuine.  We lived together for two months this summer without even considering being life partners or anything more than friends. 

In August, things changed.  I asked him to my sister's wedding.  I told him we could just go as friends.  I knew I didn't want anything more. 

We had such a great time.  We snuggled, held hands, talked, danced a bit, and hung out with friends and family together. 

We both felt something different that night, but waited for another couple of days after the wedding to act on it. 

What an incredible life we've been living together since!  It's been so smooth and almost effortless the way things have fallen into place.  The kids love him and he loves them.  I love him and he loves me....in ways I have never experienced.  It's such a beautiful thing.

It's surreal and SO real at the same time. 

I feel so connected to him.  Our lives have quietly merged. 

I now have to learn how to stop all of my habits of "survival" and independence.  I don't have to give up my independence, but I sometimes forget that I now have someone who wants to and who will hold me up, help me out, love me...someone who is now part of me and has taken on all that I have.

He loves this family and sees the beauty of it all.  This is his family....it just is. 

xoxo

Breathing freely and loving immensely....

The kids are in school and loving it for the most part.  I still have a vision of having them home...but I also want whatever is best for them.  They are right where they are supposed to be for now.

I've learned SO much along the way.  I am grateful.

Thursday, July 4, 2013

On and On!

I just received an email about Tiana's ACCEPTANCE to an amazing school down south!!!  Jayden already had a spot and the boys are on the waiting list.  Yay!

This was the ONLY thing "semi" weighing on me....my kids in public schools next year.  Three different, huge, public schools...naaaahhhh!  Not happening!

A beautiful, small, incredible, FREE, public, CHARTER school has accepted Tiana into their high school program.  The high school has a total of 24 students.... a total!  This school is a pre-K through 12 school that has been around since '96. 

Tiana had to go through an interview process with the school.  She had to write an essay on her strengths and weaknesses as a student, young adult and citizen of the world. 

Not only did she write a phenomenal essay......she wrote it in caligraphy, put it on scroll paper WITH a red ribbon tied around it!  THAT is my creative, most amazing, 14-year-old strong, young lady!!

I wrote an essay explaining why I support Tiana in her decision to join this program/school and what I would be able to offer the school.

Tiana then went through an interview process with the teachers and administration.  I sat in with her as she answered questions and came up with questions for each one of them.  It went perfect and we really had connections with all of the incredible staff.

At first, Tiana was not accepted.  They were sad to say, all four spots had been filled and Tiana was the runner up.  We left feeling okay with that....thinking we just weren't meant to move to that area.

The email yesterday said that one of the students dropped the program because they were moving out of the area and Tiana now has the option of enrolling in their program!! 

We're taking it.  This is happening.

What  a beautiful school, in a like-minded, small, mountain community....yay!  It will not be our old school, or our old community....but, I have a feeling it will be a similar feel.

The boys are on the waiting list.  Meanwhile, there is a small public school that will do.  They also have a preschool for Keenan. 

All of this in a small town....less driving and gas $$.  Buses run to both schools, SO much organic around, beautiful people- all encompassing a similar respect for the earth and everything on it, around it, in it....just aware and present. 

It feels really good. 

Middle and High School years are such important and intense times for everyone.  I truly want my girls in a nourishing, strengthening, supportive environment during these years.  A sacred place with unlimited growth potential.....we got it.  ;)

My boys will be in soon enough.  Until then, this ultimate warrior mama is ready for holding it down at home....providing that foundation and support while they journey through their days.

Grateful!!!  So, so grateful!!  xoxo 















Sunday, June 16, 2013

All is Well....Always

Life is such a gift and so amazing. 

We are in a safe, nurturing, supportive environment now.  We are living in another sanctuary in a different part of the mountains.  I still don't know the specifics of how this came to be....it's magic, miracles, blessings and then some.  I am just truly grateful.

The kids are happy and so is mama.  ;) 

The bank did pay us to move.  The broker, Phil, was very supportive and loving on the day I met him at the house to do the walk through and recieve the check.  He hugged me and told me that I was an amazing mother and he only wished us the best.  He let Keenan take some pictures on his camera and was very present during our last interaction.  I am so grateful for him.  He is an honest, genuine, sweet man involved in a "game" that can be very challenging. 

He looked through the apartment, played with the boys, handed me a check from the bank, then gave me $100 cash from his own wallet.  I couldn't keep it together....I was crying tears of joy.  The hard work, packing, moving, breathing....it was such an amazing process and so rewarding.  Phil brought his wife and introduced us.  What a challenging, beautiful day.

*exhale

The girls were able to finish school.  Yay! 

The boys are happy in our new space.....there is a slack line set up, our very own skate park made of wood, and now a place to throw sticks.  Sticks is a simple, but very fun way of being a boy or getting out any frustration. ;)  We also have a range where we can shoot our bow and arrows. 

It came down to the last minute, but worked out as usual.  Right before the  move, there happened to be a man at the top of my driveway when we returned home one evening.  He was there to help my neighbor, and ended up helping us, too.

This beautiful man, earth angel, moved me and the kiddos....just us and him.  Moving is usually stressful....there was a little of that.  All-in-all, this was the smoothest, most fun, enjoyable move I've ever experienced.  He was amazing with my kids....strong, motivated, loving and hilarious.  Everything just flowed.  We put all of our things in his trailer.  It was an epic move.....along with the incrediblly fun pine cone fights and lots of laughter. ;)

We live with a friend I have known for 7ish years and it's just synergistic and perfect for now. 

The article?  Well....I do know that the article helped some of my friends/family members eat more organic and healthy.  I am grateful for that.  I truly hope it inspired and helped spark an interest in health, love and happiness for many.  What is really important in this lifetime....that is a question for everyone to ask themselves.

Believe, trust, leap....stay honest, keep good intentions, be dependable... and you'll land right where you are supposed to be. 

I read something recently....

"God's Will won't take you where God's Will won't protect you."

I believe that.  God/Universe/Higher Powers that Be/you fill in the blank.  ;)

Love, love......